A rebound relationship is when she is dating someone else to get over you. Rebound relationships keep people from having to deal with the emotions of breaking up. People use them to help them move on from a real love.
That is the key to get back with ex girlfriend...She is in the rebound relationship to cope with losing you. It doesn’t matter why she lost you, whether it was your fault or hers or even who called off the relationship. What does matter is that there is real love between the two of you and virtually all relationships founded on real love can be saved.
If she’s in a rebound relationship, she will be focusing on what is wrong with your relationship. If you were a "good guy" she’ll probably be hanging out with a "bad boy." If you were into philosophy, he’ll be watching Monday Night Football. Or, vice versa.
The fact that she is actually focusing on the differences in your styles is actually good for you for two reasons. Her attention is still focused on you even when she’s with the new guy. And, it gives you a chance to see what she’s looking for.
If she’s with someone as different from you as possible, it means that she was missing something in your relationship. You can use the time she’s with rebound man to improve yourself.
Let the rebound relationship run its course. Because, as she spends time with the new guy, she’ll start to see the flaws in him. After a month or so with rebound man, you’ll start to look pretty good.
That’s why you don’t want to crawl back to her right away. Let her develop the idea that she misses the good things in the relationship. When she’s ready to make a move, be magnanimous. Welcome her back graciously. Be a new and improved boyfriend, but don’t do the chasing.
Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:
- Don’t try to convince her that you are the love of her life. Let her discover this on her own.
- Don’t apologize profusely. If you did something wrong, say you are sorry, but only once, then move on.
- Don’t make promises to change. You are who you are and that’s who she fell in love with.
- Don’t try to make her see that it wasn’t your fault. She will come to appreciate that over time – but only if you haven’t made her invest energy in defending her position that it was your fault.
- Never, ever beg her to get back with you.
When you ex starts going out with someone just after you break up, she’s in a rebound relationship. You can still get back with ex. Don’t despair. The rebound relationship is a sign that she’s still in love with you.
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