How To Get Back With Ex

Going through a break up is not easy, especially when you are still in love with ex. You may find yourself wondering how to get back with ex. Here are a few simple steps you can take to get you started on getting back with ex.

1. Take a step back from the whole situation. This is probably the most vital step in how to get back with ex. Give yourself some space to really think about where you want to ge with this relationship.
2. Don't call, text or email your ex. When you want to get back with ex it is best to leave things to settle and give your ex time to think about the break up. Do not contact them for any reason for at least the next little while.
3. Never talk badly about your ex. Talking to friends or family about your ex and how horrible the relationship was is not at all productive when you are trying to figure out how to get back with ex. When you do discuss your ex with others be sure to say nice things and remember there is a very good chance everything you say will get back to your ex at some point.
4. Move on with your life. I know this may be a hard step to take but you will really need to show your ex that you are capable of living your life without them. Go out with friends and have a good time. How to get back with ex includes showing them you can move on and be mature about the break up.
5. Once you feel you have given the relationship a long enough break then it is time to start working on getting back with your ex. You are going to need a strategy that is effective and very well planned.

Let me guide you through the start of a strategy that has proven to be very effective when it comes to how to get back with ex. You need to make that first call, text or email count.

The first time you contact your ex, after you have waited the proper amount of time, is very important. Do not plead or use an emergancy when you make that first call. Instead, if you really are wanting to know how to get back with ex, use curiousity and self interest when you make contact for the first time.

How can you use curiousity and self interest?

Let's look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME. In a friendly tone:

"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to letyou know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person."

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosityand self interest?

John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?""What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.

Important Tip

Before you call you need to do the"Set Up"...which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate. It can be any small thing...but needs to be plausible. Having your "set up" is a vitally important when you want to know how to get back with ex.

But more importantly...

Please have an underlying strategy like what is laid out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call. If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you are not prepared to handle it correctly. What I am saying is...

What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call. Make sense? Have a complete PLAN to help you to get back with ex.